This is because there is so much we cannot talk about namely our love lives
This is because there is so much we cannot talk about, namely our love lives. And this naturally cancels out virtually every other subject.I can’t discuss politics for fear of inadvertently mentioning the latest Tory sex scandal, which might bring back a memory of the time the police caught the pair of us naked in a parked car.I can’t tell her that last night I went to see When a Man Loves a Woman because she’ll interpret it as further evidence of my pining for her. It’s not for the conversations, which are usually of the “The cat was sick again” – “Oh, that’s too bad” variety.The banality is quite mind-boggling. The rational part of my mind constantly questions why I do this, and I have no good answer. We broke up months ago, but agreed to remain friends (being mature about it all was something else I swore I’d never do).
Since then she has called on a weekly basis, usually around midnight, and instead of my going out and finding someone new to ring up, I’m wasting time waiting for The Call She usually rings on Sunday If not Sunday, then Monday, or maybe Tuesday at the latest.
If I don’t hear from her by then, I knew for sure she’ll call on Wednesday.I sit, my pulse quickening as the clock tick, tick, ticks the night away Will she call? Then the phone rings Instantly I become calm, nonchalant, irritated even. What’s gone wrong? As a healthy, well-adjusted male with all the right amounts of hormones, I used to make them wait. What makes things worse is the fact that the girl I’m hoping will ring is my ex. Here I am, feeling like a size 22 big girl’s blouse, doing something I swore I’d never do: sitting by the telephone waiting for a girl to call. They took part in exercises from the books and discussions about relationships.The other winners were Jan Earl, from Stroud, Gloucestershire; Eve Popper, of Edgware, Middlesex; Anna Yeomans, of Dyfed; Joe Hill, of Sherborne, Dorset; and Craig Voller, Edward Elder, Cecilia Craig, Anne Thackeray, and Kate Maclaren, all from London.. ”I feel much more comfortable with my inner self, more confident and, as a consequence, my relationships both at work and at home are becoming easier.”
That’s the Superlove experience according to David Smith, from Croydon, one of the Independent readers who won our recent Personal page Anne Naylor competition.
The winners spent a day with Anne, author of the Superlove and Superlife books, at one of her personal growth seminars. —————————————————————————— ——————————————————————————– /ETFurther reports, page 16View from City Road, page 17.
New group floated on stock market in 1997, creating Britain’s third-largest high street bank – Up to 4,000 jobs to go, most at Leeds Permanent. Woolwich and Alliance & Leicester are the most widely tipped to make a move.——————————————————————————– ——————————————————————————– THE MERGER: MAIN POINTS ——————————————————————————- – More than 8 million customers, staff and pensioners to get up to pounds 1,000 in shares in two years’ time – Customers to vote on merger next spring. HSBC, which owns Midland, has been touted in the City, as has the tobacco conglomerate BAT.Yesterday’s announcement will increase pressure on other societies to merge and convert to a bank. Life insurance, unit trusts and other financial service businesses will be based at the Leeds head office, reflecting Leeds’ success in this area.The City is convinced there is still a possibility of a counter-bid for the Leeds from other financial institutions. “We are concerned about the effect on competition and choice if the industry is dominated by a few large financial conglomerates.”The new group will retain both the societies’ head offices.
